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try to modify what we expect doing and their desire to power our actions. We could cover the issue by asking ourselves what to encourage and what to blame.
On the one hand, starting with a good feeling, this desire to interfere in young people's decisions is to set a child high in the work world and to give him the best life ever. That's only remarkable because many "bad" parents never act by any kind of way in teens' choices which leads to any model for children to rely on. We can't really percieve nor foresee what they truly mean to, except their experiences show how to proceed not to do the same mistakes they did and to achieve much better goals than theirs.
As a general statement, I think parents should interfere when they suspect their child is acting outside they own value system and for safety as husker pointed out.
Meaning, I had friends my parents didn't like, but as long as I was home on time, told them where I was going and wasn't getting into trouble, they wouldn't tell me I couldn't remain friends with the person. A parent needs to rely on the teens sense of values to determine whether or not the friend is influencing them in a bad way. If it was obvious like coming home all hours, dropping school - my parents would 'forbid' me (never had that happen). It doesn't always work, but if my parents did a good job, it has a better chance of working.
I've also had boyfriends my parents couldn't stand for one reason or another just personality issues. They made it known loud and clear, but let me make my own choice
So, that's a long explanation, but I think the bottom line is there are little things, like friends they clash with, and big things like idiot drug addict boyfriends or girlfriends. If you keep yourself smart and safe there will be no major interference and any that does occur may be a bit overbearing. If your up to things you wouldn't ever want your mother to know, well, you're asking for it.
But I think that
Parenting is a lot like coaching a sports team. They help guide the teenagers with healthy training in decision-making skills and confidence in their ability to make the right decision. Once the training in those skills is done, you have to stand back and let them play the game.
Coach role doesn't stop there. There's always the after-game analysis and pre-game predictions and advice to discuss and practice with your kid.
Kids always need and want to know that the coach is available to them for consultation and pep talks. Parents always need and want to know that their kid is willing to give the decision-making skills they were taught a fighting chance to succeed
On the other hand, we can blame them something about this interaction, which is their manner to let us know what they intend to: it could be by making us fell guilty, weak or stupid or their deepness of possession on our decisions. We definitely cannot follow what they've planned for us as Fritzi said it and we gotta make our own mistakes, to feel free and therefore human. Some would get you angry and some woul take all will of yours away.
Conclusion :
To Conclude, I think the answer to the question is that parents HAVE to ineterfere to guide us as thei duty is so, but they also HAVE to be objective and let us make our own way.